Wednesday, May 6, 2015

The Path

I already have about three stories (future books) going at once, but when an idea for a new story rushes through my brain refusing to leave until noticed, I have to start writing.  Here is a new piece of writing that will turn into a full blown story soon.  The working title is The Path; I have to wait for it to name itself.  The good news is that it won't stay this dark. It's about hope, healing, and the power of friendship and love.


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It always happens when everything seems to be going well, when everything is “right” and good. That’s when the depression grabs hold with both fists, latching on to the neurons in my brain with such force as to block out everything else worth thinking and feeling. I’ve tried in the past to hold on to the positive and happy thoughts, but they melt away leaving only a faint residue of hope behind. Life had been better these past few weeks. I found a job, an apartment, and a new friend all in the matter of a few days, but that’s when everything turned as sour as a rotting lemon. I might as well sprinkle some salt on for good measure.

The self-doubt and loathing settle in and take comfort in my misery. The more the hate builds, the more comfortable the depression. My mother’s voice comes back to me often, “Just think happy thoughts.” Her voice is sweet and confident. Her resolute determination to fix me with those simple words is like acid being poured on my bleeding heart. Just go to hell! She has no idea how damaging those simple words are. She doesn’t know depression. She has never had intimate dates with despair or kissed its hot, hungry lips. She has never lost herself in the depths of its soul-searing gaze or had her body succumb to its devouring touch. She has never nestled in its warm, welcoming embrace to have all reason melt away and vanish, leaving a vacant soul behind.

So many times I walk in a haze of dark loneliness. I stumble along the sidewalk oblivious to all around me but the shroud of darkness that looms above my head and lingers around my heart. I know what he wants. I know what he is demanding of me. He wants me to tell his story.  How do I do that when I don’t even know my own? My story began years ago and has been a tangled mass of here and there, regrets and hopes, pain and joy, but when will I see it take shape in linear form.  My path has been a tangled labyrinth of single events detached from the continuity of a life story.




Saturday, March 7, 2015

A little phrase that can cripple a piece of writing




I have been reading Stephen King on Writing. This fascinating book has brought attention to my overuse of certain phrases.  Mr. King suggested the use of William Strunk Jr's and E.B.White’s The Elements of Style. I owned a copy when I attended college twenty-seven years ago, but I gave it away thinking it would be superfluous after graduation.

Yesterday, traveling through Georgetown, Colorado, my kids and I stumbled upon a book sale at the Georgetown Library.  Being huge book fanatics, we couldn’t pass up the opportunity to browse. My plan was to simply browse and resist the urge to buy. We left the library an hour later with a new collection of 40 used books.  Depositing our treasure in the car, we continued on our way to Denver. It was a long 13 hours before we were back home and able to browse through our collective trove. My prize, of the 13 books I purchased, was a third edition The Elements of Style. I devoured the 85 pages in two hours.  I read and reread sections.  I took mental notes.  I revised my manuscript, Lost Among the Trees. What I discovered was a dreadful overuse of the term “a little”. 

“Slow down a little!”
“…that made navigating a little easier.”
“I had a little more breathing room.”
“…closed in a little tighter.”
“Uneven steps made climbing a little more difficult.”
“This dream was a little different from her usual…”

To be more concise I revised each sentence.

“Slow down!”
“…that made navigating easier.”
“…closed in tighter.”
“Uneven steps made climbing more difficult.”
“This dream was different from her usual…”

The revisions are more concise and direct. I am far from completing the revision process. I am even further from completing the manuscript, but I'm loving the process.

I love the progress I am making in my writing. Thank you, Mr. King, William Strunk Jr., and E.B. White. A refresher in elements of style will continue to strengthen my writing.





Sunday, March 1, 2015

A Dilemma I'm happy to have



This Blog is going under renovation. Right now! This very moment!  

From today forward,  Life's Casual Observer Blog is forevermore my writing blog. I will create a new blog for In Life Art Studio that will showcase my art, provide thoughts on the art process, and present random writings about art in general.

As a youth and young adult, I loved to write poetry. As I've grown older, life writing and fiction have become my devices for expression. I love to write.

These past several months, I have started writing three different stories (Yes, three).  Taking advice from published authors, I know that writing every day is critical to improvement, but even more so is reading volumes upon volumes of books.  Reading; however, has become somewhat more difficult lately. I will be reading along in one of the three books I'm reading (there might be a pattern here) and suddenly have an idea for one of my own stories slap me in the face so hard, that I have to write the idea down immediately. Needless to say, I'm not making a lot of progress in my reading. 

My daughter, Shenandoah, and I went to the public library recently.  I had no intention of checking out a single book, as I was already reading three. Books just seemed to jump off the library shelves into my arms and I departed with 8 volumes of various genres! How many have I read?  Half of one book.  I now have a library fine due to the 8 volumes collecting dust on the piano in my living room. I do have great intentions, but suck at follow through.

I keep thinking that I need to focus on one story, but the ideas come randomly and one idea leads to another for a totally different story.  I find it impossible to focus on writing only one story, just as I find it hard to focus on reading only one book. Such a dilemma. But, one I am happy to have.




Saturday, February 28, 2015

Follow Your Dreams... here's mine

I'm so proud of my youngest girl, Shenandoah.  She is on a mission!  She has found something that she is passionate about and is working hard every day to be able to follow this dream, no matter what obstacles are in her way.  She has been told on several occasions by family and school personnel that she can not be a Marine Biologist.  Yet, that is her passion.

My oldest daughter, Meghan, is following her dream as well.  She has started her own business, which is growing steadily every month.  It is so amazing to see their dedication and determination in spite of all the obstacles thrown at them.

My middle daughter, Tristana, is finally becoming the person she was always meant to be.  Her dream is becoming a reality this year as well. Overcoming obstacles along the way has been heart wrenching and painful, but she didn't let them get in her way. Pure joy radiates from her now.

So, my greatest passion?  Some of you think you know.  Some of you may be wrong.
My greatest passion in life as a kid and young adult was to be a published author.  Yep, I know. Some of you are saying, "What???  Not art?" That's right.  Not art. Art was a passion I found much later in life. But, writing, that's been the BIG one all along. It wasn't others who got in the way of this dream, but the worst obstacle of all, myself! I told myself over and over that I would never be able to write that well.  I didn't have any stories to tell.  I didn't have the creativity to write. I wasn't smart enough.

Those are all the stupid things I told myself over the years. Ludicrous, I know! Here I am at 46 years old starting not just one, but three different books.  I have SO many stories to tell and so little time. It is time for me to follow through with my dream, and time for me to get out of my own damn way. I don't even care if they are ever published.  I just need to get my stories written down.

Today, I want to share the very beginnings of one of those stories with you.  Please remember that this is unedited and far from finished.  Any feedback you can give would be amazing.  Thank you.



Chapter 1


            The Jeep bounced along the boulder-strewn ground, through a dense forest of massive trees. Similar to the California sequoia, the trees were more gnarled and knotted from roots to upmost branches. Many of the tree trunks were easily as thick as a house. Deep grooves made their long, twisted way along the trunks creating fascinating patterns, knots, and curves. The tops of the giant trees disappeared in the heavy growth and dense forest. Over the centuries, as colossal roots grew and emerged through the soft earth, they created knotted archways below the trees. Some were large enough to drive through and others just big enough to crawl under. Average sized pine trees, aspen, and an array of shrubs created a gentle contrast and filled the space between the monstrous trees. An occasional clearing broke the monotony of the forest and made the way for the Jeep slightly easier. 
I felt like a tiny mouse maneuvering through a complex maze in search of the prize, a yummy slice of cheese.  A large rock sent the Jeep jostling and sent me off the back seat.
            “Oww!” I yelled as I grabbed my sore head with both hands. “Slow down a little!” A soft covered top would be great right about now, I thought ruefully.
            The two men sitting in the front seat continued their conversation, oblivious to my discomfort. The music blaring from the CD drowned out any recognizable words. Rolling my eyes, I turned back to the forest with a sense of anticipation. The Jeep cut through thick undergrowth and crushed plant life in its path. The forest was quiet except for the rumble of the engine. I had not seen a single animal or bird since entering this quixotic maze. The Jeep careened around boulders and enormous trees. 
As we turned a corner around a house-sized boulder, I felt a sudden change in mood. Gripping apprehension pulled at my gut. I looked around the forest for the source of this new and unwanted emotion. Patches of blue sky flashed brightly between the tangle of limbs. The forest itself lacked a sense of doom. The size of the trees was overwhelming, but not menacing. The forest floor was a tangle of pine needles, rotting tree trunks, patches of moss, and decomposing organics, but maintained a sense of peaceful solitude. Tree roots, twisted and tangled, wound their way into masses of snake-like balls and long ropes that made their way through and around objects on the forest floor. Mosses and lichen grew along tree roots exposed along the ground. Bright orange mushrooms peeked from underneath a blanket of moss. 
            As we drove deeper and deeper into the forest, the feeling of dread; heavy and almost painful, enveloped me like ice water. I shivered uncontrollably and wrapped my arms around my shoulders. I had never experienced anything as intense and fierce. Surprisingly, we drove through a curtain of growth and into a small clearing where not a single sapling grew. My heart racing, I looked around the clearing. The ground was covered in a fine, soft layer of bright green grass. Out my window, to the right of the clearing was a mass of trees that were so thick as to hide any light that might have tried squeezing through the trunks, branches, and growth.
My eyes were drawn upward and fell upon an unexpected wonder. I blinked my eyes a few times, rubbed them and looked back out my window. Sure enough, it stood there hidden behind years of growth. Several hundred feet above the forest floor, supported by a labyrinth of tree limbs, was what appeared to be an abandoned Victorian home. Broken windows stared out into the world, lifeless, and empty. A tower of bay windows stood majestic and on guard, a maze of long, twisted vines creeping their way up to the top. Old dusty curtains, torn and faded, hung in the windows. The house was shrouded in vines that gave the home the look of a forest dwelling from a fairy world. Wooden shingles were missing from the roof in many places. The house was cloaked in decay and decomposition.
Impossible! I blinked and felt faint. I looked at the men in the front seat to find them oblivious to what I was seeing. I looked up to the house, visible through the limbs and leaves. The Jeep veered to the right and the main tree supporting this marvel was along our path. Time and rot had made a tunnel beneath the gnarled massive tree trunk. As the Jeep neared the tunnel, the house disappeared from view. 
Going through the tunnel felt like a rebirth, a cleansing of the soul. The shade of the tunnel muted the light slightly, but the yawning roots and rotting wood looked like a complex spider’s web. A scene from “The Hobbit” flashed through my mind and I wished at that moment that I had a Sting of my own to fend off any monster spiders that popped out of the web. The feeling of dread started fading as quickly as it had started and by the time we drove out the other side of the tree trunk, I felt refreshed, but curious as well.
Abruptly, the image of an old woman in a dusty, torn gown staring out one of the sightless windows of the house struck me with such force, I gasped. I spun around on the back seat and looked out the back window, anxious to see the house again and to see if I could catch a glimpse of the lost soul within. I knew that she was there, waiting, lonely, and solemn. 
            Another clearing lay on the other side of the giant sentinel. Bright green grass met my gaze. My eyes followed the trunk of the tree upward.  The tangle of limbs seemed impenetrable and impossibly stable.  As the Jeep bounced along, the house again came into view. The home looked like it sat upon flat earth with not a single tree in the yard. I was overcome with fear, loss, anger, and deep loneliness. I knew she was long dead along with the house, forgotten and alone.  She was eternally waiting and wondering. As wood rotted and fell from the house, pieces of her slowly fell away leaving an empty shell, all but the intense feelings. 
            The loneliness consumed me and tears ran down my cheeks. We approached the edge of the forest and, as the trees closed in around us, the feelings faded as the house slipped from view. I turned in my seat feeling as if weeks of emotion had passed in what I knew had only been seconds, seconds of my life that would forever change me.
            The drone of voices and music drifting from the front seat penetrated the quiet turmoil of my world. I looked around the inside of the Jeep for traces of the time warp or black hole I must have just passed into, through, and out of so completely. I felt drained, exhausted and emotionally ragged. A bounce over a large rock jolted me from the trance I was emerging from. Instead of relief from emotional stress, I hoped for, the jostling of the Jeep made me feel even more exhausted and I quickly fell asleep before my brain could really process what had happened and despite the rough bouncing of the Jeep. Never before had I fallen asleep so quickly and completely.



Chapter 2

CiCi rubbed her eyes, stretched, and sat up on the side of the bed. The sun clawed at the edges of the dark curtains fighting to enter the gloomy realm. 
A shower would be good this morning; a fleeting thought. 
            But, that would require energy, she thought as her shoulders sank lower. Hands pressed into the edge of the bed, arms straight, shoulders slumped, and head dropped, CiCi didn’t know what to do next. Defeated by the hostile rays of sunshine sneaking their way through the dark room, CiCi sighed heavily. She looked at the rays of sun where fine particles of dust were floating softly and going nowhere important. They were mesmerizing, floating through the air like jellyfish drifting in the ocean. 
            Dreams. Dreams were one of the few comforts CiCi had in life. She looked forward to her dreams. Always full color and packed with sensation, they brought life into CiCi’s otherwise dull existence. This dream was a little different from her usual. The emotional roller coaster was so much more intense and real. CiCi walked to her desk, sat heavily, and pulled out her sketchpad and pencil. She wanted to capture the essence of the dream before it dissipated into the murky edges of her memory. There was just enough light pushing its way around the curtain to light her work. She quickly laid out lines and started shading in the form of the trees with their twisted roots, trunks, and branches. Working quickly, she used her fingers to blend and drag graphite across the paper. 
As she started in on the house high above the trees, she slowed down, contemplating every nook and cranny. She wanted to capture the upmost detail. Pausing, she gazed dreamily at the house.
This was the one skill she was most proud of. Carrying a sketchpad around with her at all times was the only thing that kept her on the rational side of sanity. There were stacks of them in her closet from her earliest memories of drawing, through her childhood, where elephants and puppies were her favorites. A faint smile touched her lips. She glanced at the closed closet door, picturing the dozens of sketchpads. She hadn’t ventured through the stack in a while, but could remember with great clarity the sketches that lay within each and the evolution of her work. The tattered and torn edges of each book marked its age and history of use. The older ones were more mangled and some were no more than spiral notebooks. There was an assortment of sizes and colors. And each one had its own special quality, memory. Stick figures and houses were her first subjects. As times passed, the sketchbooks had more and more variety of content:  sketches, class notes, tic-tac-toe games with classmates, glued in leaves and other memorabilia from her life. She even had sketches that others drew for her. One particularly special addition was that of a watercolor her grandmother painted directly into her sketchbook. It was a mountain scene with pine trees and a field of flowers. Her eyes welled with tears.
Memories of her grandmother came crashing in around her. 
NO! I won’t think of her. It’s just too painful. Better to push it all away and never think of her or the pain of her loss. It had been nine years since her grandmother passed. There were no pictures of her in CiCi’s room or anywhere in the house to remind her of what she had lost. Memories of that gentle, loving woman were kept locked away in the darkest recesses of her mind. Memories were no good if all they brought was pain. Memories were best forgotten.  Unfortunately, they were never forgotten.
CiCi turned back to her sketch. Looking good, she thought as she began adding more shading and highlights to the house. Images of the dream began fading, but the emotions would be with her for a long time, she knew. Her pencil hovered above the top tower window. She sat contemplating that space. Not sure why, she moved her pencil away from the tower window. The house looked Victorian in style and had a tower of bay windows three stories high. She tried to capture the decay and ruin of the home by adding fine lines and details to the window frames, wood siding, and eaves of the roof. The front porch stretched just ten feet across the front of the house. The heavy wooden door was a massive slab of ancient wood, gnarled, with deep grooves weathered over time. The faster she drew, the quicker details were fading from her memory.
There was something missing. She could feel it, but couldn’t pinpoint what it might be. She continued with the details of the sketch hoping an image would come in sharp and clear, but she knew, as did with all of her dreams, that the images faded quickly and were impossible to bring back. A nagging feeling that she was missing something wouldn’t go away as she closed her sketchbook and put it in her backpack along with her pencil case. She had things to do today and didn’t want to be late. 

Walking the short distance to her mirror, CiCi glanced at her wrinkled clothing. Black jeans, black t-shirt and black hair that hung in front of her eyes and down her neck. Emo. That’s what others called it. CiCi just called it “not caring”. She slept in her clothes every night and changed only when she took a shower every other day. She raked fingers through her shoulder length hair and turned to grab her backpack.

Monday, February 23, 2015

Share a mud pie with someone you love.

How do you know you're on the right track in life?


You don't! Not really.

What feels good and right today, may not in a few years. What felt good and right twenty years ago is obsolete.  Every time my life took a new direction, I would ask myself, "Is this the right move?  Is this what I'm supposed to be doing?"

Is what you are "supposed" to be doing what destiny has laid out for you?

“It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves.” 
― William Shakespeare

I stopped asking those questions several years ago when I decided that life is too safe, structured, planned. I didn't want to plan anymore. I wanted to jump into every aspect of life with both feet, splashing in the mud, knowing that I have control over how I will react and the choices that I will make.

How do I know I'm on the right track in life? Because it feels good, right, and it allows me to splash in the mud without fear of staining my clothes or ruining my hair.  Be carefree.  Splash in the mud.  Dance in the rain. Stand in the quiet stillness of the snow as it drifts down and places tiny, wet kisses all over.  This, of course, is best accomplished without a coat on.

I stood in the snow twice this weekend.  The quiet stillness wrapped me in a blanket of wonder and peace.  I can forget all my worries standing in the snow. There are times that I have to force myself to take these moments. I allow my busy life to have too much control over me and the decisions I make. This weekend, when I noticed it was snowing, I thought, I can stand in the snow later. I knew, deep down, that if I didn't take the opportunity to enjoy the snow, it would be gone.  I stopped what I was doing and stepped out into the front yard.  I closed my eyes and enjoyed all those tiny snowflake kisses bringing love from the heavens.


Tranquil solitude once a day is a profound way to gift yourself with absolute bliss. Be child-like when seeking out your moments of solitude.  Children know exactly how to disconnect from the world and bask in the simple joys of playing in the mud and dancing in the rain.




My moment of quiet peace today? I haven't taken it yet. It is what I will do once this blog is finished. I will go to my art studio and stare at my works in progress, simply enjoying being present in my creative space without giving a thought to the next brush stroke or color choice.

It won't be easy, because my artistic mind is constantly seeing the limitless possibilities of a blank canvas. How does one paint snowflake kisses?  When in solitude, my mind will remain blank and that is when all the answers to my questions become extraordinarily clear.  It is in times of solitude that my greatest ideas come to fruition, and it is in times of quiet reverie that my mind is able to let go and float in the peaceful waters of existence.

Be bold enough and brave enough to let go.
Make a mud pie and share it with someone you love.










Thursday, June 6, 2013

Bowling Ball Garden Art... Who knew it could be so fun??

Bowling Ball Art for the GARDEN


Bowling Ball Garden Art:  The Four Gentlemen
by

Lauren Espinoza

About two years ago, I began collecting old, worn-out bowling balls to create my own garden art.  Glass covered balls and adorable lady bugs were the norm for bowling ball garden art on the internet.  I wanted something different, something unique.  

The hunt was on!  However, bowling balls were hard to find.  I found a few in garage sales, traded a nice one for one that was old and cracked, and found one in a pile of rubbish.  I plopped my treasures down in my garden waiting for inspiration to transform my "trash" into works of art. 


My Trash Treasures


Inspiration was not a frequent guest at my home for an entire year!  When my family decided to move from Texas to Colorado, my husband was very patient as I packed up my lovely bowling balls for the long trip.  My blank canvases went from adorning one garden to another.  There they sat for another 9 months. 



Primed and ready for some paint and creativity
Inspiration has a funny way of tracking me down and asserting itself when I least expect it.  It was a beautiful, crisp Saturday morning when I stepped outside to survey my yard and porch.  Spring had arrived and it was time to make plans.  Inspiration was waiting for me that day as I glanced down at my bowling balls in the front garden bed.  Spring Fever and Inspiration met and my new project was set into motion.  I ran downstairs and found some exterior primer among the collection of left over paint cans.  
  



Knowing that these works of art would adorn someone's garden, I looked for a garden theme and realized that the four seasons would be perfect.  I started researching the four seasons and found The Four Gentlemen.  The Four Gentlemen represent the four seasons (orchid for spring, the bamboo for summer, the chrysanthemum for autumn, and the plum blossom for winter) and have been used in Chinese art for centuries.  

Mounted on candle holders and texture added


Most of my artwork contains texture in some form.  My garden art was no exception.  I used Flexible Modeling Paste to create an interesting texture on the bowling balls.  Three of the balls were mounted on bamboo candle holders.  These gave the bowling balls a great variance in height and added some interesting perspective once the balls were placed in a garden.




Base colors
I wanted to start with a good marbleized color.  The next step was to pain each of The Four Gentlemen symbols on the balls.  This took some more research, as the symbols online had slight variations depending on the artist.  Not knowing Chinese, I wanted to make sure my art was as accurate as possible.  















Bamboo - Summer


I started with the bamboo.  It was fun to paint and gave me the opportunity to establish the style of the pieces.  The Chrysanthemum, Plum Blossom, and Orchid followed.  Each piece had its own challenges.  Each of the paintings was then covered in a high gloss glaze.  
Orchid - Spring

Chrysanthemum - Autumn
Plum Blossom - Winter

The final step was to cover each in a clear, protective polyurethane to protect them against the elements.  The final product was gorgeous.  These bowling balls are on sale through my Facebook page:  https://www.facebook.com/pages/In-Life-Art-Studio/
Commissions are also welcome.


The Four Gentlemen represent the four seasons (orchid for spring, the bamboo for summer, the chrysanthemum for autumn, and the plum blossom for winter).





Copyright © 2013 Life's Casual Observer blog, Lauren Espinoza


Saturday, November 17, 2012

This is My Life... Welcome.

This was no Quixotic endeavor; although, there are those who would disagree with me.  It may have seemed a bit foolish, impractical, rash, and possibly characterized by lofty romantic ideas.  I like to call it spontaneous, creative, fearless, and living out loud and boldly.




2012 is close to an end.  Only 44 days left of this year of learning to be Bold.  This has been one of the Most impressionable years of my life.  It was a year of struggle, learning, discovery, and spontaneity.

A great friend of mine once told me, in the midst of great depression and self loathing, to be Bold; to be courageous and face my doubts and fears with a bold and confident air.  How had my mind and soul become so knotted, gasping for air, straining against the confines of their imprisonment?  The dark, oppressive air of a lifeless and lost soul constricted my thoughts, my desires, my dreams, and my ability to discern basic emotions.  The labyrinth of my soul led straight to the center of a desolate and melancholy void.  

A beautifully adorned mask with glittering jewels and polished gold concealed my tormented soul, but I neglected to see the fragile fissures and their elaborate web in the substructure.  I wore my mask daily in an attempt to conceal the albatross that closed about my throat tighter and tighter still, strangling me till the light in my eyes had almost been snuffed out.  The only thing that kept that glimmer of hope was my family and friends.  They were my anchors.

This was NOT the life I wanted to live.  This was NOT the path I wanted to continue on.  This was NOT my destiny and the more I fought to break free, the more the chains tightened.    



Be Bold.  Two simple words.  Once spoken that night while we sat under the stars, talking about our lives and the changes we needed to make, it suddenly hit me.  Be Bold.  I had some work to do.  I pondered her words for a month or so; letting them filter through my brain, seep into my soul, and trickle into my heart.  I practiced being bold; small things here and there.  

I realized all too soon, that to be Bold, I had to face my fears, make life-altering changes, and find a new path.  No, that's not right.  I didn't need a new path; I just needed to take the path I was on and make some changes, reroute.  I no longer wanted to be on a single path.  I didn't want to take the road less traveled.  I wanted to take multiple roads less traveled.  I wanted to create my own roads and discover what lay ahead.  I was now on a journey to create my own road map.  It was time to be BOLD!  

"Babe, do you want to move to Colorado?"  With that simple question, the chains began falling from my soul.  I was starting to breathe again; not shallow, painful breaths, but deep, cleansing breaths.  The gold mask fell heavily from my fingers and landed in the dust as I walked boldly toward my new life.  I was not running away, but embracing a dream.  It was time to live my life boldly. 







I have been living boldly for 4 months. 

My road map continues to grow.  It's not about where you live either, but that you live your life boldly.  I am living my life.  I want to see as much as I can of this beautiful country that God created.  I want to discover, explore, and Live.  I don't want to have any regrets or wish that I had done more; seen more.  I am busy living life boldly and enjoying every second.    



This is my life... Welcome.



Copyright © 2012 Life's Casual Observer blog, Lauren Espinoza

Wednesday, June 27, 2012

"Leap... there will be a net"



It's Way more than just dismantling the chicken coop.  It's SO much more than just another chapter of my life.  When I stop long enough to think about the impact of that one little, seemingly innocent, question, "Babe, do you want to move to Colorado?", I realize that this is more like a Cosmic shifting of planets, an El Nino of Epic proportions, A "Holy Crap, are we Really doing this?"



Someone told me recently, "Leap... there will be a net."  Yes, that may be true, but she didn't tell me that between that Leap of Faith and the net on the other side, was one Hell of a bumpy ride!  Now, I have to say that I have no one to blame but myself and I'm not complaining either.  I'm so excited about this Leap of Faith and so very ready for new adventure in our lives. It didn't even Hit me until I walked into the Chicken Coop the other day and stood looking at the emptiness, taking in the silence, watching tiny particles of dust sift through rays of sunlight.  This was Epic!


Ok, I'm the first to admit that being a "tad bit" spontaneous and a "little" impulsive can make for a BIG change.  I like change, I welcome change, I embrace it with enthusiasm and excitement.  I'm typically a very shy person who plays it safe and follows the rules, but once in a while I like to shake things up; see what fun chemical reaction I'll get if I mix a little of this, a little of that, and a lot of these.  And here I have an experiment that has evolved into more than this adventurer was expecting.  

First, I really didn't mean to shock people.  I have that effect at times, I know, but it seemed like such a simple little thing:  We're moving to Colorado.  I had to grab a helmet and run for cover.  Ok, so it wasn't that bad.  Most of our friends and family were DEFINITELY Shocked, but most responded with support and love.  I was a bit baffled by those who were angry at us.  But, upon reflection can see where they were coming from.  

As I stood in the chicken coop the other day, it suddenly dawned on me that this was more than "just" moving.  I definitely was NOT prepared for the tears that started flowing.  This building was more than just a chicken coop.  It was a building built with love, sweat, and dreams.  We had poured our hearts into this place.  We had made so many plans and had so many dreams of what our lives would be living here the rest of our lives.  Being the strong person that I am, the tears were quickly squelched.  There was no time for tears.  There's just too much to do and plan and organize and decide and ..... I'll just cry later.  And later I shall!


Not only was I going on faith, without a job, but I was also changing, forever, the lives of my husband and children.  I'm not worried about Fredo.  He's tough and is even more excited about this new adventure than I am.  He's like a little boy on Christmas morning who got everything on his Christmas list.  His eyes sparkle and his face lights up when we talk about the move.  






 I'm not so worried about Shenandoah either.  She's a tough little cookie.  We asked her about moving to Colorado and her response was, "Yay!  Snow!!!"  She'll be fine wherever she goes.  She'll make new friends and live a fun, new adventure.  She is, after all, my adventurous one.  





Merlin will be fine too.  He gets more and more excited each day about our move to Colorado.  He's tough and resilient.  He will make new friends and have so many new experiences.  His PRIDE will shine brightly and he will blossom!
Here's where it gets a little tough!  My Meghan!  Instead of a gentle move into adulthood and independence, I feel that I'm kicking her out the door with her bags packed.  Oh wait, I forgot her toothbrush and toothpaste!  She doesn't see it that way, of course.  To her this is also a new adventure.  She's staying in Bryan and will be an independent adult!  THIS is what I was NOT prepared for!!!

She's on the hunt for a place to call her own.  She's going to be approximately 1044 miles, 18 hours and 44 minutes away from ME!!!!!  Right now, she's reading this and rolling her eyes.  I can't blame her... It is pretty sappy!  

But, but, but.... I wasn't ready for THIS.  I was ready for her living in a small place 7 to 15 miles away.  A hop, skip, and jump away.  What happens if she stubs her toe?  What happens when she gets a flat tire?  What happens when she needs a shoulder to cry on? 


I used to say, when they were toddlers, that I would jump for joy the day they turned 18.  I'd open the door and say, "There you go, the world is waiting."
Now I want to scream, "Wait, don't go, the world is too big!"  Ok, I don't really want to scream that.

The Counselor in me says, "Meghan, welcome to your new life.  Embrace it.  Experience it.  Enjoy every second.  Take it slow and easy.  There's no rush.  Have fun.  Be open to new experiences.  Be Bold.  Be Honest.  Live each day to its fullest.


The Mom in me is struggling to accept that it's time for her to roll out a new and fresh canvas, whip out her colorful Prisma pencils, and create one Hell of a Great new Adventure for herself.  

Phew.  I feel better now.  I just needed to get it all out.  Thanks for listening. 

Just be warned... You do NOT want to be around the day our U Haul pulls out of the driveway headed North.  The floodgates are going to open and Maintenance won't be able to shut them off!

Faith.  Yep, that's what I was going on.  Monday I said, "Let's move to Colorado."  Wednesday I resigned from my job.  Thursday I began the hunt for a new one.  By Faith, I knew that I would find something.  I would shovel snow from driveways if it meant that we were finally going to Colorado and starting a new life.  I took a Huge Leap and there WAS a net!  It was Awesome.  I had two job offers in 4 days.  

We have a few more "small" things to figure out, like where we're going to land when we get there and finding a job for Fredo.  House hunting is NOT fun, but we'll find something.  We'll have plenty of cardboard boxes once we unpack, and Fredo is a super creative builder.  We could have an amazing cardboard home in no time at all.  ;o)

It's time; Time to file all those fears and worries away and pull out the Master plan.   It's Time to leap and leap again... Like Frogger getting across the busy road.  We are master's of this game.  It is our game; of our own design.  "We are the music makers, And we are the dreamers of dreams..."  ~ Arthur O'Shaughnessy ~

It's time to Dream and Dream Big!  Colorado, Here we come! 









Monday, May 21, 2012

Fun Garden Beds

I have a tremendous amount of amusement creating fun and new decorative garden beds in our garden.  Today, I wanted to share a simple "How-To" of building a very cool flower/garden bed.

We obtained a great supply of old, heavy fencing that is weathered and worn.  This lumber made the perfect material for one of my favorite garden beds.  I started by cutting the fence posts into varying sizes from 6" to 14" in length.


I then started digging a design in the yard in the shape I wanted my garden bed.  



Once the garden border has been completed, it is time to lay a layer of newspapers... not too thick.  You want enough that it helps with weed control but not too much so that it decomposes and allows the plant roots to grow below.  I put about three to four sheets thick.  I have read on other blog sites and internet sites that some people put the newspaper as thick as 8 sheets thick.








It's important to water the newspaper thouroughly... making sure the newspaper is good and wet!














It's then time to put down the gardening soil.  We usually put in our own home grown compost, but had run out.  We bought some good Vegetable/garden soil at Lowe's.  Be sure to put a thick amount of soil to allow for root growth.  We put 6-8 inches.









The garden bed is now ready for planting.  We planted cauliflower, cilantro, spinach, and broccoli in this garden bed













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Thursday, April 19, 2012

A Police lineup!


It has been safely locked away in a vintage, sea green suitcase.  The edges of the case are frayed, the stitching worn, and the handle nothing more than rusted, cold metal.  I know it’s still there, resting between fragmentary, faded memories.  Every few years I pull it down from the top shelf of the closet; lonely, half-forgotten.  The dust filters through the air and invades my nose as I breathe in the musty odor of antiquity.  The rusty locks are intact, secure, and untouched.  It has not moved, has not been touched by another, nor has it been freed from its confines.  But how can that be?  Years have passed; ages it seems, but, still it finds its way back to me more often than I care for.  I thought, in my foggy, weak state of mind, that locking it away would keep it from coming back time after time.  I thought I was freed, but I know; I’ve always known that it cannot be contained, controlled.  It slips out of its confines to make its way back to torment me.

“My head is whirling in the darkness, yet it’s not dark but an overwhelming void.  I search frantically through the void, groping, stumbling on the corpses of others who could not find the light.  It is a heavy quilt suffocating the innocent sleeper.  Self-loathing wraps its long, writhing tendrils through my soul, squeezes my heart, injects its dark, heavy ink into my veins.  My heart aches from the wound I made with a sword molded and fired by the Devil himself.  I tear my heart desperately trying to ease the awful pain.  I want to stop the pain!  PLEASE STOP THE PAIN!!!  The void tightens its grip, squeezing life from my body and mind; leaving me in nothingness.  Nothing.  Darkness has won another victory.  I was its prey and it overcame.  Victory to the darkness, its victim has fallen.  Nothingness consumes my mind.  I feel and see nothing.  The darkness has control.  No pain, no fear, no regrets.  The darkness has won yet another battle.”

Don’t panic, don’t worry… This blog is about Hope, Love, and Recovery!  If you have never suffered from depression, please keep reading.  Knowledge and understanding breed compassion.

Depression is an ugly shroud of deception!  It takes over an otherwise logical and contented mind and fills it with doubt, paranoia, anger, defeat, self-loathing, fatigue, worry, and uncertainty.  I have lived 43 years with Depression and it has been a battle that has not yet been completely won, but I am one hell of a fighter!  I don’t give in easily and I won’t lose this battle!  As a matter of fact, I’m ahead on the brightly lit scoreboard.  The Home team is in the lead and the visiting team is struggling to stay in the game.

Depression is a fog that creeps across the soul and into the mind; slowly and deliberately.

It’s a fist that slams you in the stomach swiftly and unexpectedly. 

It has no playbook, no coach, no offensive coordinator, no specials team.  It’s a rogue out to steal your sanity and happiness! 

It shocks me sometimes how stealth depression can be.  Life is moving along just fine and suddenly one tiny, little thing happens and Depression attacks full force, without notice, without compassion. Then there are those times when you suddenly realize that depression has slept with you, walked with you, stalked you for weeks and even months and you were clueless to its presence.  It was soaking in, seeping into every pore, every cell, and every atom ever so slowly saturating your core.

And, I have to say, one of my Pet Peeves is when people say: “You don’t look depressed or act depressed.”  Everyone’s depression is their own unique experience.  It’s not quantifiable. It’s a police lineup and every person in that line is guilty.  Every one of them has a different face, a different MO, a different victim, but they are all called by the same name:  Depression.

I know people whose souls and hearts are suffering greatly from depression, but their outward appearance is one of smiles and positive expression.  We have great actors in this world and they are not all on the silver screen.  They do not all win Oscars for their stellar performances.  They are sitting next to you in class, they eat potluck with you at church, they live in the same house, and they work in the office next to you.  They suffer every second of every day in silence. 

One of my favorite quotes I’ve seen on Facebook is:  “Sometimes when I say, “I’m ok”, I want someone to look me in the eyes, hug me tight and say, “I know you’re not”.”  My burden, so often, seems too heavy for me to bear; I couldn’t stand knowing that I might have passed my burden on to someone else.  That is why so many suffer in silence.  I know it’s not the ONLY reason, but it is one.  There are times I’m ready to burst with the pressure of holding in so much depression.  There are times I want to talk to someone and let it all unload, but I don’t.  The thought of sharing my burden with someone else makes me even that much more depressed.  I don’t want to be the next dump truck unloading on an unsuspecting, innocent person.  I’m tough, I can handle the load, I can carry it further, longer, I can suffer some more. 
Or at least that’s what I tell myself. It’s the lie that springs too easily from my lips, travels the highway of neurotransmitters in my overwhelmed brain, and sears itself in my limbic system. 

To Be Continued…




Copyright © 2012 Life's Casual Observer blog, Lauren Espinoza